What do I believe in? I believe in Passion, being Truthful to yourself and others, if you aren't true: the truth is you're fake. With what guiding principles can I be constructively obsessed? What work gives me the most pleasure? If I lost my job, current position and status do I have friends who will give me support? What can I do that offers me sheer joy - - that emphasizes my uniqueness and from which my creativity flows? What currently governs my life? Where do I spend my time? What do I want to be remembered for? What do I have to do to make my life complete? http://marriagemattersblog.blogspot.com/2013/08/rational-versus-irrational-jealousy.html

Day 1: CONFIDENCE

http://www.inc.com/peter-economy/5-powerful-ways-to-boost-your-confidence.html

A)  Stay away from Negativity and bring out the positivity

1. evaluate inner circle, including friends/family - Get away from people that shred your confidence (Debbie Downer)
2. Feel positive - even if you don't feel it; be excited
3. Don't focus on the problems; focus on the solutions and make positive changes

B)  Change your body language and image:

1. Posture(pull shoulders back)
2. Smile( make others feel more confident)
3. Eye contact(Look into their eyes)
4.  Speech (speak slowly and clearly; feel more confidence)
5. Style your hair, clean shave, dress nicely
6. Take pictures of your wardrobe before going out

C) Don't accept failure and get rid of the negative voices in your head

1. never give up; never accept failure; succeed through great adversity
2. Low self-confidence = negative thoughts
3. You are what you preach; turn on the positive affirmations

If you are constantly bashing yourself and saying you're not good enough, aren't attractive enough, aren't smart enough or athletic enough, and on and on, you are creating a self-fulfilling prophecy.

D)  Be prepared

1. Learn everything there is to know about your field, job, presentation
2. If you are prepared, and have the knowledge to back it up:
3. SELF CONFIDENCE will SOAR if you are well prepared

E)For Tough times, when all else fails:  Create a great List

1. Count your blessings list 
2. Count your accomplishment list
3. Post them Everywhere that can be easily seen

Self-Esteem

Self-Esteem:  confidence in one's own worth or abilities; self-respect

is how we value ourselves; it is how we perceive our value to the world and how valuable we think we are to others.

Affects:  our relationships, our work, every part of our lives

Positive Self-Esteem:  strength and flexibility to take charge of our lives and grow from mistakes without the fear of rejection.

1. confidence
2. Self-direction
3. Non-blaming behavior
4. Awareness of personal strengths
5. Ability to make mistakes and learn from them
6. Ability to accept mistakes from others
7. Optimism
8. ability to solve problems
9. independent and cooperative attitude
10. feeling comftorable with a wide range of emotions
11. An ability to trust others
12. Good sense of personal limitations
13. Good self-care
14. Ability to say no

-in bold (not obtained)

Low Self-Esteem:  feels unworthy, incapable, and incompetent.  To feel poorly of himself, causes continued low self-esteem

1. Negative view of life
2. Perfectionist attitude
3. Mistrusting others -even those who show signs of affection
4. Blaming behavior
5. Fear of taking risks
6. Feelings of being unloved and unlovable
7. Dependence- letting others make decisions
8. Fear of being ridiculed

-in bold (obtained)

Affirmations:  Help build positive thinking and to improve self-esteem; helps stop negative-self talk, increases self-esteem;  

1. I respect myself and others
2. I am lovable and likable
3. I am confident, and it shows
4. I care about myself
5. I am creating love, healhty relationships
6. I am a good friend to myself and others
7. I accept myself just as I am
8. I look great
9. Life is good, and I like being a part of it.